Grief is an integral part of almost everyone's life. Whenever
you go through the loss of a near and dear one, you go through a
grief process. Grief is experienced physically and
psychologically. Crying is an integral part of grief process. In
cultures where crying is acceptable, loss is borne more readily
than in those in which crying is discouraged.
When we have lost a near and dear one, it is initially difficult
to accept the loss. This is natural. As time passes, the loss
becomes easier to bear from a psychological perspective. But
emotional expression is still an integral part of grieving. If
the person is not allowed to grieve due to societal or family
pressures, other problems like depression or anxiety may arise.
From Nature's perspective, once someone has died, it is
important that the(unconscious) mind accepts the loss. Once the
unconscious mind accepts the loss after going through crying and
sadness , life becomes easier.
A simple exercise will bring benefit to all those who want to
deal with grief of a loved one.
Exercise: Close your eyes and imagine seeing the lost loved one
in front of you. Talk to the person in your mind as if the
person was standing in front of you. Treat the image as a real
person. Having finished saying what you would like to say, bid
the person GOODBYE and see the person go. You will notice
feeling like crying or feeling sad.
Do this exercise everyday at least once, preferably before
sleeping, till you start to feel comfortable seeing the person
go. By that time your sadness will have reduced to a remarkable
extent. This exercise can save you many months of counseling and
a lot of money if done as advised.
About Author :
Pradeep K Chadha is a psychiatrist who specialises in helping
patients with meditation and imagery using little or no
medication. He is the author of The Stress Barrier-Nature's Way
To Overcoming Stress published by Blackhall Publishing, Dublin.
He is based in Dublin, Ireland.His website address is
:www.drpkchadha.com
